3-1-1 On Accountability

3 Thoughts on Accountability


Holding ourselves accountable can be challenging. 

Holding others to high standards is even more demanding. Confronting people may cause discomfort.

However, growth doesn't occur when individuals are in their comfort zones. 

We cannot inspire people to become better players and individuals while remaining in a place of comfort.


You don't get to blame, complain, or defend. 

You don't get to blow up emotionally on people. 

You have to be the example. 

You have to take ownership for everything. 

You have to be the one they can look to when times are tough. 

That's the responsibility of leadership.


"That's the way the lower-level coach loses the respect of their team—by not being demanding enough, failing to emphasize a higher standard, and avoiding the stressful, passionate investment that entails the risk of losing popularity. While they may win the popularity contest, they sacrifice respect, resulting in lowered standards." -Anson Dorrance,  UNC Women’s Soccer Coach

1 Tip for Accountability

  1. Co-create standards with your team at the beginning of the year: "What do we need to do to ensure success?"
  2.  Agree upon the consequences of not meeting the standards: "What are appropriate consequences for failing to meet the standard?" 
  3. Use magical feedback to hold them accountable: "I am holding you accountable because we have established high standards. I have confidence in your ability to achieve them, and we are relying on you."

1 Question on Accountability 

"Are they capable of doing this, even if it's very hard?"

 A significant factor contributing to the fragility of Gen Z is the absence of accountability in their homes, schools, and sports environments. 

If the answer is yes, it is crucial to hold them accountable, while providing them with encouragement and coaching.

- J.P. Nerbun

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