3-1-1 on the Problem of Our Ego

*This 3-1-1 is inspired by Jennifer Garvey Berger’s work on Leadership Mindtraps.


3 Thoughts


One must ask : if your belief in yourself is not dependent on actual achievement, then what is it dependent on? The answer , too often when we are just setting out, is nothing. Ego. -Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy


Most people are spending time and energy covering up their weaknesses, managing other people's impressions of them, showing themselves to their best advantage, playing politics, hiding their inadequacies, hiding their uncertainties, hiding their limitations. Hiding. -Jennifer Garvey Berger, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps


We often find ourselves trapped by the image we project to ourselves and others, expending an enormous amount of energy (now more than ever with social media) to protect this constructed persona. This hinders our growth by anchoring us to our present selves, causing us to become stuck, as we fail to embrace change and pursue a newer and more developed version of ourselves.

1 Tip to Break Free from Our Ego

Ask One of these Questions 3-5 Times

  • What's at stake for me here?
  • What's the hardest part about this?
  • How do I know this to be true?
  • What is possible for me here?

This helps us to really uncover how we are truly seeing things in the world. 


1 Question to Break Free from Our ego

Who do I want to become next ?


-Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps by Jennifer Garvey Berger

-Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday


JP Nerbun

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